THE CATHOLIC CATECHISM 

by Fr. John Hardon

Sixth and Ninth Commandments

Sexual Pleasure

In order to understand the Church's teaching on the morality of sexual pleasure, it will be useful to briefly state some of the normative principles that underlie this teaching. They are always implicit in what the Catholic teaching authority tells the faithful they must do in order to live up to the Christian expectations of the Sixth and Ninth Commandments of the Decalogue.

First of all, sexual organs are good and beautiful because they have been given to men and women by God for a most noble purpose, the continuation of the human race. In the first chapter of the first book of the Bible, we are told: "God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. God blessed them, saying to them, 'Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and conquer it"' (Gn. 1:27-28).

Second, the sexual act in marriage is also good and beautiful because of its twofold God-given purpose: for the generation of children, and as an expression of true mutual love between the spouses.

Third, sex among Christians is essentially unselfish because it is to be directed toward others, ultimately to the offspring that God may give husband and wife and proximately to one's marriage partner.

The fourth norm is that when sex is used for selfish purposes it is disoriented by Christian standards. The disorientation may be done in various ways: when its ultimate purpose is deliberately frustrated by contraception; or when intercourse is had in circumstances where the children would be brought into the world without proper care for their upbringing and education, as in adultery and fornication; or when sexual union is sought merely to satisfy one's own selfish desires without regard for the fatigue or illness of the other partner.

The fifth principle indicates that there must be a morally good reason for any action that brings about sexual stimulation, whether the stimulation is primary, e.g., by touch, or secondary, e.g., through the other senses. Direct sexual actions, whose immediate and exclusive intention is to arouse or encourage sexual pleasure, are the privilege only of married partners between themselves. They are forbidden to the unmarried, because such conduct would be contrary to the virtue of chastity. Indirect sexual actions are those whose purpose is not to arouse sexual stimulation but some other good reason. If there is such a reason, the actions are not sinful, provided a person neither intends the sexual pleasure nor consents if it spontaneously arises.

Lest there be any misunderstanding about the Church's attitude toward sexual experience between married spouses, we should recall the teaching of the Second Vatican Council: "The sexual activity by which married people are intimately and chastely united is honorable and worthy and, if done in a truly human fashion, it signifies and fosters the self-giving by which the couple gladly and gratefully enrich each other." 42 It is unfortunate that words like "impurity" and "unchastity" have taken on nuances that suggest there is something wrong with the sexual experience. It is sacred, and its very sacredness is the reason why indulgence outside of marriage becomes profanation of a holy thing.

Catholic moralists have always given due attention to sexual experiences outside of marriage that are called "unnatural," notably masturbation and homosexuality. But their increase in certain affluent cultures has led some people to wonder if, perhaps, they are all that sinful. What can be so wrong about "relieving emotional pressure" or, in the case of homosexuals, about two men or two women "being in love"?

Writers who defend the practices generally follow the expedient of reducing the morality of human acts to the intention. How a person enjoys sexual pleasure is unimportant; what matters is the reason why. Self-abuse then becomes sex release, and the sin that St. Paul said excluded one from the kingdom of heaven is described as a form of gaiety.

The Church has consistently proscribed homosexuality and masturbation as objectively contrary to the will of God. 43 At the same time, she recognizes that the subjective responsibility of the persons involved is greatly affected by the culture in which they live.

As a society's attitudes change toward sexual activity outside of marriage, it becomes increasingly difficult for men and women to maintain their Christian convictions and accept the Church's teaching. Accordingly, manuals in moral theology now give special counsel to confessors and spiritual directors about helping their penitents come to grips with the problems that underlie self-indulgence. Pastoral psychologists have found a remarkable correlation between the urge to masturbation and physical or emotional fatigue, insecurity, or lack of acceptance by others. They have also connected homosexuality with disoriented relations between child and parents, and with imbalanced sense of guilt, exorbitant malice, and inner depression.

More than ever, the Church is becoming aware of the need for probing beneath the surface of not only what a person is doing but why he is doing it. Impulses and tendencies that well up from the subconscious (or unconscious) are seen as contributing to overt actions that reflect the behavioral pattern of the environment, even while they contradict the deepest values in which a person believes. He may have an unexplainable desire and feel the desire persist in spite of conscious reasons to the contrary; he may experience an unaccountable inner drive without apparent cause in his conscious life; or he may experience an unclear sense of fear or attraction for which there is no assignable cause.

That is one reason why religious instruction, especially of adolescents, should take into account their tendency to identify with surrounding customs as an expression of personal autonomy. "From this kind of autonomy there arises what can be called a 'temptation to naturalism,' which makes adolescents tend to perform their actions and to seek their salvation by their own powers. The bolder the personality, the stronger will be an inclination of this sort." 44

Hence the importance of sound pastoral care and the Church's insistence that her priests and teachers not only present the moral doctrine to the faithful, without dilution and with perfect candor, but also help the people to cope with their moral problems and train them to Christian maturity.

This Christian maturity is a new term in the Catholic vocabulary. It corresponds to the achievement of a fully developed personality, one of whose features is a balanced control of the sex impulses and a harmonious unity of all the experiences of one's personal, social, and spiritual life. What must be kept in mind, however, is that such maturity is not some starry ideal but an attainable reality. Of course, this means self-mastery, with the help of divine grace. "If we wish, we can keep our body and spirit chaste. The Master, who speaks with great severity in this matter (Mt. 5:28), does not propose an impossible thing. We Christians, regenerated in baptism, though we are not freed from this kind of weakness, are given the grace to overcome it with relative facility." 45 We have the promise that "since the Spirit is our life," we shall be "directed by the Spirit," which means that we shall not be victims of our "self-indulgent passions and desires" (Ga. 5:24-25).